Have you come to a point in your relationship where it’s just getting too hard to keep going? Maybe your partner is tough to live with, or maybe the love seems to be fading and everything is dull? What if there was a way that you could hit the reset button on your relationship and give it new life? Well, I believe there is. And, in this article, I’m going to explain this to you.
It’s not uncommon to see couples struggling to press on. Maybe it’s only been a few months together, and maybe it’s been years. Regardless, struggles and frustrations happen. You can hit the reset button as many times as you want to. But if you don’t find a way to deal with these hard times, you’ll probably have your marriage hit the rock!
The key is learning how to live and thrive together even with differences. Relationships require certain elements to thrive. These elements will be elaborated on, below.
5 Key Elements To Reset Your Marriage
If you live with someone, you will have hard times. There will be disagreements and arguments, and sometimes, there will be silent treatments and campouts on the sofa. I’ve come to learn that it’s quite hard to live together perfectly every day. There are many things that are necessary to have a great and lasting relationship. But there’s a few that are ultra-necessary and can’t be absent.
1. Say “Goodnight” and “Bury the hatchet”
I’ve also come to learn after many years that holding grudges and keeping them on the hook for what someone said or did doesn’t help. In fact, it only causes more turmoil and creates more division. I’ve found that there’s really only one way to solve the issue – someone’s gotta give in and be the first to forgive.
The nice thing about going to sleep is waking up refreshed and ready for a new day. However, it’s hard to do this when you’re angry with your partner. Instead of waking up mad, try waking up refreshed and ready to start over. Reset. Do this by forgiving your partner for whatever they did.
2. Think again! is it worth the it?
Is whatever you’re mad at your partner about worth it? Is it ultra-important that they learn their lesson? I’d say it’s ultra-important that they know they’ve wronged you and that it can’t keep happening, but there needs to be forgiveness before the healing comes. Instead of holding on to it, once you are both cooled down and in a more peaceful attitude. Sit them down, tell them how it’s affected you and that you want them to make changes.
Be ready to listen to offer listening ears too, get an insight from their perspective and make an effort to understand it. Forgive each other and reset. When You will feel better. The relationship will feel better too.
3. Honesty and trust
Nothing kills the relationship quicker than a lack of trust. Honesty and integrity are very important in society, but so much more in the relationship. If the whole world fell apart outside the doors of your house, isn’t it nice to know that at least on the inside, your house is safe, and you can trust your partner? Well, of course, right?
But many couples are struggling because of dishonesty and insecurities caused by such behaviour. The couple needs to be committed to each other. It’s not that one must keep the other on a short leash, but that each should know boundaries and limits. They should know dangers and watch for anything that can creep in and take root, such as temptations.
4. Affection and intimacy
Assuming they are, then affection becomes ultra-important. Showing affection to your mate is necessary. Those little kisses and hugs before and after work, before and after sleep, and spontaneously throughout the day are like little seeds that soon grow into a great harvest of love and desire.
It’s not weakness to tell your husband or wife, “I love you” or, “I miss you” or, “I appreciate you.” It’s not weakness to hold hands or to cuddle or to do what they love to do instead of what you want. It’s part of having a solid and thriving relationship that will produce years of adventure together.
When the couple spends time showing their love for each other, they fall into deeper love. When this happens, everything improves.
5. Love and respect
Have you tried to spend time with someone who doesn’t respect you or your authority? Maybe at work, or at school, or somewhere else? It’s not fun. They question everything you say and do, and they refuse to work with you. Instead, they walk around with their nose in the air and they essentially make your life more difficult. Can you imagine that in your relationship? You know, with the one that you swore to live happily ever after with?
Don’t let the love for your spouse die down. Instead, reset. Take some time and remember all the things that you first loved about them. Write them down. Think about their charm, their humour, the way they make you feel safe and full. Forget about the shortcomings and the things they’ve done wrong. Instead, spend time only thinking about the good stuff.